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Quote of the Day

Quote of the Day

“Don’t write a check with your mouth

Your ass can’t cash.”

~ Charles Portis

Quote of the Day

Quote of the Day

“Some things just look great on certain women……..a little black dress…..a bikini…..divorce.”

~ Raven R. Adda

Lessons from a Doomed Marriage

https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/relationships/what-i-learned-marrying-first-person-sex/?utm_campaign=AudDev-30FB-Excluded&utm_medium=PaidSocial&utm_source=Facebook

A great read for anyone with questions on why their marriage did not work out….,

I know my reasons, which may be worse.

I have posted this saying before, but still true…

Quote of the Night

and she was made

to appear crazy

by the man

who drove her there

~ r.h. Sin

Interesting Biblical Facts….

 

I’m not saying that the word of Rob Thomas is gospel, but look at the valid points……

Rob ThomasThisIsRobThomasLev.19:19 says for planting two different crops in the same field, you should be stoned to death.

  • Rob ThomasThisIsRobThomasLev.21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. sorry four eyes.

  • Rob ThomasThisIsRobThomasExodus 35:2 says i should be put to death for working on the sabbath

  • Rob ThomasThisIsRobThomasI am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of menstrual uncleanness – Lev.15:19-24

  • Rob ThomasThisIsRobThomasExodus 21:7 says i can sell my daughter into slavery.

  • Rob ThomasThisIsRobThomasother fun things you learn if you take the bible literally: Leviticus 25:44 states that I may possess slaves

  • Rob ThomasThisIsRobThomasif marriage is a religious bond, why can atheists be married? even SATANISTS can be married.
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    Married…..But Looking……..

    This was an article that I wrote for a local magazine. It was not published, but the two week experiment was quite eye opening…..
    Please click on each image, as it was the only way to incorporate the article. Thanks!
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    This wasn’t covered on Oprah…..

    We all think we do it right….we remain calm, collected, make lists and prepare for the “discussion”.

    A conversation….a compromise…..what we get is something all together different.

    Why is it that no matter how hard someone tries to have a serious discussion about a serious, life altering issue…the other party just wants to bring up shit that is irreverent and doesn’t address the subject? Why is the “past” always dragged into it? It’s called the “past” for a reason. It’s over.

    past

    -adjective

    1. gone by or elapsed in time: It was a bad time, but it’s all past now.
    2. of, having existed in, or having occurred during a time previous to the present; bygone: the past glories of the Incas.
    3. gone by just before the present time; just passed: during the past year.
    4. ago: six days past.
    5. having formerly been or served as; previous; earlier: three past presidents of the club.
    6. Grammar. designating a tense, or other verb formation or construction, that refers to events or states in time gone by.

    –noun

    7. the time gone by: He could remember events far back in the past.
    8. the history of a person, nation, etc.: our country’s glorious past.
    9. what has existed or has happened at some earlier time: Try to forget the past, now that your troubles are over.
    10. the events, phenomena, conditions, etc., that characterized an earlier historical period: That hat is something out of the past.
    11. an earlier period of a person’s life, career, etc., that is thought to be of a shameful or embarrassing nature: When he left prison, he put his past behind him.
    12. Grammar.

    a. the past tense, as he ate, he smoked.
    b. another verb formation or construction with past meaning.
    c. a form in the past tense.

    What’s that on #1???….“It was a bad time, but it’s all past now.”….What about #11?….“When he left prison, he put his past behind him.”

     I’ll tell you why the “past” is always a hot button to press. It is used against a person when there is nothing intelligent to contribute. They have no valid point, so they go for the jugular. It’s classic.

    When you don’t have a leg to stand on…..you try to take out the opponent’s legs.

    Maybe they feel threatened by the subject. Maybe they just don’t want to talk about it. But, if something is bothering someone you love so much you would think that the person would want to help fix it. How anyone can sit and watch their loved one sit and cry and just continue to belittle and make light if the issue is inexplictable to me. It’s borderline sadistic.

    sadism

    –noun

    1. Psychiatry. sexual gratification gained through causing pain or degradation to others. Compare masochism.
    2. any enjoyment in being cruel.
    3. extreme cruelty.

    Take a look at #2….“any enjoyment in being cruel”.

    When you love someone, you would think that you would do anything within your power to help them or ease their pain, no matter what the cause…especially if you are the cause. It is horrible what we do to each other in the name of love and a fair fight. I have used the past and hurt loved ones in arguements and have had it done to me also. It doesn’t feel good on either end. Particualrly the first. Hurting the one you love just to try and prove your point is not fair….it’s cheating. Every discussion begins with the good intention of working an issue out. No one expects to be hurtful or vindictive, but that is our nature. When threatened, we realiate with a greater vengence. It’s not right, it just happens to be true. Humans have never been able to distinguish themselves from animals in their basic instincts. The protective mother, vengeful lover, or sexual impulses of procreation.

     The road to Hell is paved with good intentions……

    I watched the movie “The Day the Earth Stood Still” last night. It wasn’t a particularly good movie, but it had a very valid and poigent message.

    When faced at the brink or precipce of great destruction is when we finally change.

    My husband and I were at that brink a few years ago. We decided it would be best to live apart and try to work it out. We made arrangements to see apartments for him, as I wanted to be sure it was a good place for the kids to be when they went over to their father’s. We found one just a few blocks from the house we were in. It was close, in the price range and had lots of room. An old Italian lady came down from her home a few doors down…she owned the apartment building. She showed it to us and it seemed just perfect. She asked if it was just for us. We explained what we were doing.

    She was looking at us as if we were insane.”So”, she said, “you’re a gonna a live a  apart and a try to a work it a out? What is a the a  sense in a that? You a younger a generation don’t a realize what a you are a doing.” We laughed a little, thanked her and said we would be in touch.

    I had a lot to think about on that short drive home. I guess my husband did the same. We didn’t fight that night, but talked….really talked without being mean and hurtful. He never did take the apartment and we worked it out. It was at the precipce of that moment that we realized the impact of our decision. That woman talked us out of renting her apartment. I think that was her intention all along.

    It took me longer than normally to write this, as I didn’t know how to put into words how strongly these feeling are for me. I am guiltly of being hurt and guilty of administering the pain as well.

    It is when we are at the brink of a breakdown that we finally realize what we need to do. I feel as if I am slowly walking toward the precipce of something huge. I don’t know if I will change what I need to…..

    or just jump.


    “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”

    ~Thomas Alva Edison

    Is it possible to tell someone how unhappy you are in a nice way?  How do you say to someone you love,”Umm, I have been trying to talk to you for a while now and you haven’t been particularly receptive and I am just at the end of my rope, so if something doesn’t change soon….I’m done.”

    I know there are much better ways of phrasing it, but you understand the general concept, right? How do you make someone realize that you are feeling so frustrated, helpless or whatever the case may be, without it turning into WW III?

    So many people keep their feelings bottled up inside. They have coined the phrase “bottled up” for a reason. The bottle eventually explodes.

    No one wants to explode. It’s not something you plan for…not an occurrence that is well thought out….it is a final exercise in fruition. You can’t possible try talking to someone about an issue that is bothering you for so long…have no compromise and not eventually irrupt. Telling someone you love that the situation you are in is hurting you is hard. It makes you feel weak and makes them feel either empathic or powerful. The first being the best choice. Unfortunately, too often than not, some people like to have all the power in a relationship. They like the control and feelings of superiority. I am a control freak, so feeling helpless is the worst feeling I could ever go through.

    People have to realize that relationships, marriages and friendships are a series of compromises. If one partner is not willing to compromise than it is not a true bond, in a sense. If you love someone enough, you have to be willing to do anything and everything within your power to make the relationship work.

    Unfortunately, I have learned this the hard way a few times. Most of the time it has worked out for the better, but some have gone to a point of no return.

    I have always believed that it’s good to cry, be angry, feel manipulated or betrayed by someone. It shows that you still care.

    It’s when the tears stop and the anger fades that is makes me worry. These are signs of not caring…and when you stop caring, it is ten times worse than any hurt. It means you have given up.

    I am starting to give up…..

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